WWYD?

Still thinking about my DF Kat. I know she is really disappointed. Right now her status' read "giving up." It breaks my heart.

But I think I can kind of "get" why she is feeling that way. After trying all those treatments with no known problems and no pregnancy it would be hard to even find the tiniest little bit of desire to keep going.

So I did a little searching on Implantation failure and what can cause it. Basically they can't really be sure. It could be that something is genetically wrong with the embryo's, which could be avoided with PGD (pre-genetic diagnosis $$$) or it could be an immune problem (testing for this is $$$ and inconclusive in many cases.) I read one DR's advice on what to do after a failed "perfect" IVF cycle. His advice to try again. I also read other articles which suggest further testing for implantation failures should only be done after numerous IVF cycles....like up to 7!!! Now maybe in a country where fertility treatments are covered someone may want to put them selves through the physical, financial and emotional strain of 7 IVF cycles but that is really not a possibility for most average Canadian couples.

At this point she doesn't want to go back for her frosties. What would be the point right? If they can't tell her why they never stick why waste the money and sanity on FET cycles.

I couldn't do that myself. Morally I would feel wrong about not at least trying to give them a chance. But I am not in her shoes.

I was talking with another mutual friend yesterday after the news came. She mentioned that she would surrogate. It's a nice idea. I thought about it myself. If there is an immune problem then maybe someone else could carry a baby or two. But it's not so simple. Even with a "known" surrogate.

I loved being pregnant and had a relatively smooth pregnancy until the labour and delivery part. But you never know. Things may not go quite as smooth. A person would have to be prepared to leave work early, potentially spend time in hospital away from family and other children and I suppose even worse.

I don't think that in my case my Doctor would be ok with it. He did give me the go ahead (After July 31) to ttc however with the prior uterine rupture any future pregnancy may have higher risk.

Well those are my thoughts for the day. We have been holed up inside away from the heat. I thought about heading out for a walk but after yesterdays adventure (very hot, B cranky) I decided to not go.

Dh is working late again tonight....sigh....that will be my whinge again.